Baptism, Part II

Brian and I had a chance to talk on Saturday after I wrote my last entry.

Thankfully, I was calm enough by then to hear him out. He felt simply awful about how Saturday night had gone. He woke up knowing that what he had said had been incredibly hurtful. He was realized that he had been trying to process his own fears about his religion out loud (with me), which was a big mistake.

I was able to tell him that all of the Baptism issues revolve around his problems with the church, not mine, and that I couldn't help him figure it out. I told him he needed to find someone else to work all this stuff out with.

In the end, we both agreed that we don't really need to discuss the baptism anymore. I've set my boundaries and made my decision (to have my own ceremony and to not participate in the Catholic one). His decision about the Catholic baptism is up to him.

Of course, secretly, there's part of me that wants him to renounce the church so this will never be an issue for us again. But deep down, I know that the reason I fell in love with Brian is in large part because of his spirituality -- and if the Catholic church is where he finds that spirituality, then so be it. He has my support.

Thanks to those who emailed and called to offer support. I appreciate it!!