My marriage
Happy 1st Birthday to my marriage!
Today is our 1st anniversary and what a day it's been! We consciously decided not to make a big deal out of this day, but to just celbrate it quietly by having a nice day together.
Brian's idea was to re-live our wedding day by visiting the hotel where we stayed, the church, and the park where we took pictures. So after a lovely lazy morning, we headed to the hotel for a wonderful brunch. We remembered how we felt on this day a year ago and laughed about some of the wonderful, awkward, and funny moments of the day. The funny thing about that day was that we didn't spend any time together in the morning or early afternoon. So there were a lot of wonderful stories that we'd forgotten to tell each other--special moments we had with our parents/siblings, stressful moments when something was forgotten or broken or lost, emotional moments before the ceremony, etc. It was wonderful to remember together and laugh about all of those experiences.
After brunch, it started to rain. Bummer! We couldn't go to the park, as planned, and we decided to skip the church (so much for our plan!). We came home and played with the puppy and took a long lazy nap.
We wound up going to the mall and Brian graciously offered to help me shop for clothes. This may sound really mundane, but it was actually one of the most romantic things he could have done for me. I lost almost 40 pounds the year before our wedding....and I felt (and looked) amazing. But since getting married and quitting smoking, I've gained a lot of weight. In fact, I've gained almost all of the 40 pounds back. And I'm really ashamed about the size of clothing that I'm wearing these days. I feel horribly fat and unattractive. The hard truth is that I can no longer shop at the stores I love. Brian knows all of this and went to the mall with me to be there when I began shopping in the "plus" section for the first time in over a year. He helped pick out clothes and had really good, honest feedback about what I tried on. I was so grateful for his presence because it was so loving and so supportive. This event was shadowed by a lot of shame for me but his presence made it much more manageable and a lot less overwhelming.
We finished off the night with a light dinner out. When we got home, we knew it was time for our wedding cake. The tradition is that you eat the top of your wedding cake (which has been in your freezer since your wedding day) together on your first anniversary. This was kind of a scary thing....especially considering that our cake had fruit in it. And how long can fruit really stay in a freezer? A year? Really?
We exchanged cards and dove into the cake....and it was really pretty good. I didn't touch the frosting because I thought it was gross. But the cake was actually really moist and the fruit filling was yummy!
And we started a new tradition. We listed out our successes and challenges of the past year together and set some goals for next year. We wrote everything out on the back of the cards that we exchanged and we are going to keep them and take them out to read again next anniversary. If we keep doing this, we'll have a snapshot journal of our marriage (year by year by year). I love the idea of opening up the shoebox (or whatever we keep the cards in) in twenty years and bearing witness to the lives that we've lead together.
Happy Birthday to my marriage!
Today is our 1st anniversary and what a day it's been! We consciously decided not to make a big deal out of this day, but to just celbrate it quietly by having a nice day together.
Brian's idea was to re-live our wedding day by visiting the hotel where we stayed, the church, and the park where we took pictures. So after a lovely lazy morning, we headed to the hotel for a wonderful brunch. We remembered how we felt on this day a year ago and laughed about some of the wonderful, awkward, and funny moments of the day. The funny thing about that day was that we didn't spend any time together in the morning or early afternoon. So there were a lot of wonderful stories that we'd forgotten to tell each other--special moments we had with our parents/siblings, stressful moments when something was forgotten or broken or lost, emotional moments before the ceremony, etc. It was wonderful to remember together and laugh about all of those experiences.
After brunch, it started to rain. Bummer! We couldn't go to the park, as planned, and we decided to skip the church (so much for our plan!). We came home and played with the puppy and took a long lazy nap.
We wound up going to the mall and Brian graciously offered to help me shop for clothes. This may sound really mundane, but it was actually one of the most romantic things he could have done for me. I lost almost 40 pounds the year before our wedding....and I felt (and looked) amazing. But since getting married and quitting smoking, I've gained a lot of weight. In fact, I've gained almost all of the 40 pounds back. And I'm really ashamed about the size of clothing that I'm wearing these days. I feel horribly fat and unattractive. The hard truth is that I can no longer shop at the stores I love. Brian knows all of this and went to the mall with me to be there when I began shopping in the "plus" section for the first time in over a year. He helped pick out clothes and had really good, honest feedback about what I tried on. I was so grateful for his presence because it was so loving and so supportive. This event was shadowed by a lot of shame for me but his presence made it much more manageable and a lot less overwhelming.
We finished off the night with a light dinner out. When we got home, we knew it was time for our wedding cake. The tradition is that you eat the top of your wedding cake (which has been in your freezer since your wedding day) together on your first anniversary. This was kind of a scary thing....especially considering that our cake had fruit in it. And how long can fruit really stay in a freezer? A year? Really?
We exchanged cards and dove into the cake....and it was really pretty good. I didn't touch the frosting because I thought it was gross. But the cake was actually really moist and the fruit filling was yummy!
And we started a new tradition. We listed out our successes and challenges of the past year together and set some goals for next year. We wrote everything out on the back of the cards that we exchanged and we are going to keep them and take them out to read again next anniversary. If we keep doing this, we'll have a snapshot journal of our marriage (year by year by year). I love the idea of opening up the shoebox (or whatever we keep the cards in) in twenty years and bearing witness to the lives that we've lead together.
Happy Birthday to my marriage!
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